My goal to try and not stress out about things I can't fix is not going too well. Sometimes you encounter some toxic / negative people in your life and currently I am struggling a little on how to best deal with it.
I went to my trusty Google and typed "how to deal with toxic people" and I found this helpful post. I hope it helps you too when you are dealing with some difficult people. I have extracted below what I found helpful, which will hopefully get me back on track!
- Avoid toxic people. In some cases it may not be an option (ie work!), but more often than not, it is. It is also common to believe you can get a toxic person to change while interacting with them. You will not get them to change and trying it simply is not worth it.
- Anticipate toxic people. It is important to be able to spot them quickly, and start avoiding them before any relationship truly develops.
- Set firm boundaries. Toxic people will often use you, one way or another. This is where boundaries come in. Boundaries are reflections of what you are and are not willing to do.
- Get over your guilt. Most toxic people are very skilled at making others feel guilty when they don’t do what they want. This makes it particularly hard to set and maintain firm boundaries with them. But, there is a way out of this dilemma: getting rid of your guilt. It is your own guilt which toxic people use to break down your boundaries. When you can set and maintain boundaries with them without feeling guilty, the weapon they have against you is gone. Realize that your guilt is irrational, pointless, and it is used against you by toxic people. This is the best way to get over it.