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Judging

I follow Rebecca Judd on instagram and she wrote this great post recently on her blog responding to an article about parent shaming and bullying.  I really like what she wrote and agree with many of her points.

I don't want to get into a debate on my blog about who is 'right' or 'wrong' but I agree that there seems to be an awful lot of 'judgy-ness' out there that is just completely unnecessary.

  • Breast feeding vs formula feeding
  • Stay at home parents vs working parents
  • Natural birth vs c-section
  • Kids vs no kids
  • Married vs unmarried and the list goes on..

Bec touches on celebrity bashing in her post but I know many of us have been subjected to it in our day to day lives.  I have had all sorts of judgy comments thrown my way eg I am sending my kid to daycare when she is too young, why do I want to work full time and leave my kid, did I feel ok about having a c-section (like it was a bad thing), why did I only take 5.5 months off for maternity leave and isn't that a bit short and not enough time to bond with my baby or look after her properly...

It really is a bit ridiculous.  I think people just need to get over themselves and we all just need to do what is right for us and our own individual and personal circumstances - whether that is as a single, partnered up, with or without kids.

I don't know where the judgy comments stem from.  Perhaps jealousy, insecurities or just arrogance but just let people live their own lives!   If you don't want to see people being happy or don't agree with their life choices then don't hang out with them, don't follow them on social media or read about them and stop with the judgyness.

As Bec said in her post:
Memo to everyone, stop worrying about what Teresa, Miranda, Jodi and Giselle are doing and think about why another woman’s life (usually a strangers) affects yours so much? That’s the bigger issue here. Focus on yourself and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. 

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